This is an excellently written description of what I’ve experienced as well! A very relatable post for me. I can’t read people very well, which results in a lot of confusion and misunderstanding and occasionally, disaster via some faux pas that I realize only way too late that I’ve unknowingly committed lol. I can completely identify with the vulnerable feeling, too. This is a great read!
Sometimes I just have to let things go. I find myself going over and over something I’ve said, second-guessing my own reactions and wondering if I’ve inadvertently said something wrong, pissed someone off, hurt someone’s feelings…but I’m not going to figure that out by rehashing it over and over. Either they’re going to tell me so, or not.
The trouble is, people often don’t tell me one way or the other, and therein lies the problem. I can’t help it if people don’t tell the truth about their own reactions, and I can’t be expected to just know. It’s been pretty well established that people with vastly different ways of thinking and experiencing the world have trouble seeing each others’ perspective—we think differently, so…we think differently. Damian Milton calls it the “double empathy problem,” and points out that it’s not a one-sided autistic “deficit,” but rather a mutual…
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