Reading People (Or Not)

This is an excellently written description of what I’ve experienced as well! A very relatable post for me. I can’t read people very well, which results in a lot of confusion and misunderstanding and occasionally, disaster via some faux pas that I realize only way too late that I’ve unknowingly committed lol. I can completely identify with the vulnerable feeling, too. This is a great read!

Eclectic Autistic

Sometimes I just have to let things go. I find myself going over and over something I’ve said, second-guessing my own reactions and wondering if I’ve inadvertently said something wrong, pissed someone off, hurt someone’s feelings…but I’m not going to figure that out by rehashing it over and over. Either they’re going to tell me so, or not.

The trouble is, people often don’t tell me one way or the other, and therein lies the problem. I can’t help it if people don’t tell the truth about their own reactions, and I can’t be expected to just know. It’s been pretty well established that people with vastly different ways of thinking and experiencing the world have trouble seeing each others’ perspective—we think differently, so…we think differently. Damian Milton calls it the “double empathy problem,” and points out that it’s not a one-sided autistic “deficit,” but rather a mutual…

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The moment I realised that I was right about not being like other people

Such a great post, on such an important topic 💜

Autistic and Cheerful

I’ve been in and out of treatment for depression and anxiety since I was a teenager. While I have experienced both anxiety and depression at times, I began to wonder as I got older and nothing seemed to help if there was something else behind the whole thing. So off I went to my GP

I won’t go into the whole sorry saga about my experience with the NHS.  Sure, I’ve had good and bad experiences but overall I love the NHS to death and I think we are lucky to have it. Besides, I’ve been telling this story for nearly three years and I’m sick of it. Long story short, I had to have CBT before they would entertain the possibility of me seeing a psychiatrist.

I can see why CBT would be helpful for a specific phobia and I know it’s helped a lot of people. But for…

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Noise

Yes! I can identify with this so much. It says what I’ve experienced, but it’s expressed so much better than I could’ve done 😁 “Emotional temperature”, for example – I love that! 👍🏼

Welcome to My Wild Ride

The other conversation I had in real life that I didn’t mind was rather noisy, with someone who was definitely not autistic. It was the kind that was hard work but still enjoyable for what it was. In a way, it was a song-and-dance number that started out completely disjointedly and, through a series of abrupt starts and halts, harmonized itself.

Had there been more time, I think it would have been a rather unique song.

The catch, however, was that I, who was prone to meltdowns at any sudden moment, had to be the lead.

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Company Policies That Keep Neurodiverse Employees Out of the Workplace

This is a fantastic post that opens a conversation that needs to be had and raises an important issue that needs to be addressed. Thank you so much for writing this 😊❤️👏🏼

Neurodivergent Rebel

Neurodiversity is the idea that neurological differences (Autism,  Tourette Syndrome, ADHD, Dyscalculia, Dyspraxia, Dyslexia, and others) are natural variations in the evolution of the human genome.

Neurodiversity seems like the new HR buzzword, and for a good reason. Neurodivergent employees are eagerly entering the workplace, bringing along fresh perspectives and valuable skills.

Employers claim they want to be more inclusive but often fall short when policies and company culture are set up in a way that is can be off-putting for neurodivergent employees.

Are your company policies unintentionally discriminating against autistic and neurodivergent employees?

Open Offices – Collaborative and fun, open offices are a popular option for creative agencies and tech spaces, but these work pits can be overwhelming for those employees who may prefer a calm quiet workspace.

If your workspace utilizes an open office design, try to create spaces for employees to work away from typical office noise and commotion…

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Hiraeth for Autism

I’m relieved that I’m not the only one who has felt this way! 😊 My problem is that I often find myself homesick for a place I’ve never been. What’s really interesting–and this has happened to me only once–is to suddenly be reunited with one of those places. It’s amazing. But rare 💗 I can relate to this so much! A beautiful post 🌺

Autism and Expectations

Hiraeth pronunciation:-

Hi – The Hi from Hiccup

Rae – pronounced the same as the wry of a wry smile (if you pronounce wry with a rolled ‘R’, but let’s not overcomplicate)

Th – The Th from Think

Hiraeth is an untranslatable Welsh word. It’s often described as homesickness or a sort of nostalgia, but these translations don’t touch on the strength of the feeling.

Hiraeth is a deep longing for somewhere. It is that pull within your chest for a space where you belong. It’s that feeling you get when you smell the scent of home, or when the wind ripples through the grass in the right way.

When I lived in England for more than a decade, I would feel Hiraeth for home. Crossing the Severn bridge would begin to alleviate it. The further I travelled through the hills, over and under the rolling valleys, the further I…

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Inclusive Teacher: Autism Awareness

My teachers definitely needed to read something like this! I almost wish we could go back in time. But at least posts like these are available now! I hope every teacher (and every other school faculty member) reads this 😊👏🏼👏🏼💜

Special Needs Teaching and Education

This is a post I wrote for Kent-teach for Autism Awareness month. Autism awareness is an essential concept with ever increasing need for us all to seek a greater understanding of what it means to be autistic. However it must be more than holding an assembly, or watching a video. We must make real and ongoing adaptations to ensure our learning environments and school communities are as inclusive as possible. This post is from my point of view. Hadley has written an excellent post on her experiences as an Autistic student on her blog.

We must endeavor to find out what being autistic means to the children we work with. It will be different for every child. All the children I work with have a diagnosis of Autism and no one statement or definition adequately describes what this really means to them. When it comes to any special educational…

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Ways to deal with anger

Yep, I can relate; I’ve definitely had these moments 😉❤️

Hey readers,

Life can be tough and make you feel angry and lash out. I have written a post about ways to use that angry in a constructive manner so that people don’t get hurt but you can deal with the angry positively.

Night falls over a beach as a crescent moon shines in the sky

Do something to use up the rage, maybe go for a run, rip paper or like me clean kitchen floor and get that frustration out of your system. I always better after cleaning up and I have the added bonus of a tidy kitchen, whoop!

I know this can be hard but if you are in a situation that is causing that angry it is better to hold your tongue and walk away in the long term, We all have said things in the heat of the moment and when you are angry you can’t think straight. That is why it is better to walk away and…

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Not Broken, Not Damaged!

Excellent post, my friend! I feel you 💜💙

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Not Broken, Not Damaged!

Any of these sound familiar to you? “Are you sure you are autistic?”” You sounded taller!” “Gees l had you pegged for a tie wearer!” “No, you’re not – you’re not like them!”

It’s a funny old world in which we live; everyone has a preconceived idea, opinion or an expectation of what you should look like, sound like and who you should be based on what they believe and not so much what is.

It doesn’t seem like only a few years ago that l was sitting in the job centre next to my appointed advisor and listening to her explain to me that autism was basically the same as depression and as such was purely in the mind. It’s not actually a play on words it was how she was explaining it – although my Aspergian mind was thinking ‘Technically that’s…

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Autism Awareness

What a great post! Yes, this, all of this!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼😁🌟🌟

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#AutismAwarenessMonth – a.k.a April – is a tricky one for many autistic people as commercial autism charities bombard social media with publicity stunts to raise awareness of autism prevention-and-cure research fundraising opportunities. Sadly this publicity is very rarely generated by autistic people themselves, but by parents who fear autism itself, and by profit led autism charities with interests that lie in research and autism training that rarely benefits and in fact often harms autistic people.

Somehow I missed all of this hype until two years ago.

And then my life took an unexpected turn.

During Autism Awareness Month 2016 a Standard Issue article by the fantastic Sarah Hendrickx ended up in my twitter feed. And it was about being an autistic woman.

I read it through several times. What Sarah had written resonated strongly with me. Which was odd because I wasn’t autistic. Her experiences were normal weren’t they? Same…

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I am one person with autism

Hear, hear! This is too cool not to share 😁👏🏼👏🏼💗

Dream Walden

If you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism
Remember this because this is about my autism
You don’t have to be sorry, you don’t have to congratulate
My autism is neither a curse nor a gift
It is simply a human condition that needs no cure nor blessing
I am not a neurotypical nor atypical autistic
I have no superhuman abilities nor gifted skills, I am neither low nor high
Just a hard functioning autistic with hypersensitivity to sounds and crowds,
trapped in a concrete jungle of noise and people and the endless pursuit of materialistic goals
My autism needs no cure, it needs vast open space to breathe and abundant solitude to heal
I’m not proud of being autistic. I’m proud to let my weirdness shine.
A half full glass is a half empty glass. My autism is both a disability and ability.
Autism…

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