Re: #ToSiriWithLove I actually blame the publisher

Wow!!  Fantastic post!  Rarely do I reblog from the same source in rapid succession, but grrrrrl, you’re on fire!  I love your balanced rationality and thorough explanation.  Stepping back, taking a deep breath, and looking at the facts (even when it’s tough to do so), and spelling them out so patiently in a piece that takes such an original point of view, providing such original information.  Bravo, amiga!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💜💜

How Night of Too Many Stars is ignoring half the spectrum

GREAT post! 🙂  I strongly stand behind the “Nothing About Us Without Us” philosophy.  It disappoints me that to this day, various groups are meeting and benefiting financially in our names, without giving consideration to our needs so that we can at least attend these events without frying our nervous systems.  Even if we’re able to attend, such oversights can discourage us from attending again, in the very place in which our voices and presence are needed most.  It’s a shame, really.  I hope that more organizations take US into consideration when planning for future events.  Bravo, luv ❤

Fixing #ToSiriWithLove

Very, very brilliant post, by a very, very brilliant blog-writer! 🙂 I’ve not been on Twitter much (I’ve found it way too triggering, doing more harm to me than good for me), and some of that is due to the presence of issues exactly like this. Not the backlash from the lovely #actuallyautistic peeps, of course–but the presence–and *persistence*–of books and underlying sentiments like this. The author of the book says something along the lines of, “you can’t criticize that which you haven’t read”, and there might be some truth to that, but on the other hand, one doesn’t have to read (yet *another*) account of an autism-critical NT lamenting about their child and actually-autistic people and autism itself, to get the general gist of the book. It’s yet another book in which the author criticizes that which they do not understand (and aren’t necessarily trying to understand). In a way, the author and her co-defendants are doing exactly what she’s/they’re criticizing *us* for >:(. And of course, she was given the book deal and will benefit financially from this, while autistic people often struggle to make ends meet and have a much smaller audience for their own books. It’s interesting how the autism biographers get more attention than the autistic autobiographers! But I’m rambling now 😉 /end rant ❤ Great post!!! ❤ ❤

On being Asian, Chinese and Autistic

This post is GOLD. Every word! 💖💜💖

Dream Walden

When I travel to somewhere new, I prefer to immerse myself with the local people and culture, it doesn’t make sense that I should travel a long way to hang out with people from where I’m from. There were times where people found out I came from Singapore then told me they knew someone else from the same place and could introduce us, I would smile and muttered to myself, “thanks but no thanks.” I didn’t travel all the way to meet someone from where I came from, in fact, that’s the reason I left. In a similar vein, I avoid people from my culture or race, in particular, I try to stay out of my way from the stereotypical tourists who travel around in big groups. Is that discrimination? I admit, I discriminate loud and noisy people.

Let me clarify further, I do make friends with people from my place…

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Why I’m still upset about my ASD diagnosis

Yes 😊 This post sums up my struggles, too! It’s not so much the Asperger’s/autism that is the bad thing, it’s the lack of understanding that persists in a largely nonautistic world and especially the symptom-based medical and mental health fields. This very thorough post expresses so well the very real consequences of that lack of understanding. I know I’m preaching to the choir here, but this is really worth sharing! ❤️❤️

Autistic Moments: Autistics Should Be Sterilized

Way to go, girl!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼.  I love this!  A comeback against ignorance, very well-written 😘❤️

Some Girl with a Braid

Recently, I encountered an ‘Autism Mom’ who wrote that she thinks her son shouldn’t be allowed to reproduce. She uses these words: “I am still deeply worried about the idea that he could get someone pregnant and yet could never be a real father – which is why I will insist on having medical power of attorney, so that I will be able to make the decision about a vasectomy for him after he turns 18.” This is Judith Newman, author of ‘To Siri with Love’. (Updated)

According to a New York Times review, she advocates, in fact, for (implied non-voluntary/forced) vasectomies for all autistic men. I’m not sure if she assumes autistic women only have sex with autistic men (in case she reads this and doesn’t know, we are not a separate species incapable of reproducing with neurotypicals), or if she thinks that I too should be sterilized, but…

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The Good Doctor Steps Forward. Now Let’s Take Another Step.

Although I have yet to see The Good Doctor, I really want to; I mean, it’s David Shore!  The same genius who created House MD!  But I’ve been reading a lot about it lately, enough to get the gist of what it’s all about, and this is probably one of the best write ups I’ve seen about this show.  And I love where this post goes next.  Thanks for writing this!  Wonderful post 👏🏼👏🏼💖

Cambria's Big Fat Autistic Blog

Now, I’ve had time to process the fact that “The Good Doctor” has taken a step forward: in the hiring of an actually autistic actor. To be blunt, he played the patient of the day. It’s really good, guys. I am happy you’ve hired somebody who has true insight into autism. The reason is this: a lot of people outside the autism spectrum get major tenets of autism wrong. For example, we’re still fighting the “No Empathy” stereotype even today and probably tomorrow. But I digress. Bravo, Good Doctor. 

What I am now waiting for is a series recurring or regular autistic actor, a la “Speechless.” Speechless has the Good Doctor beat in the series regular Micah Fowler, who of course plays J.J. DiMeo. Sure, he has trouble delivering his lines, but the character has built-in supports and more than enough nonverbal expression to carry himself around the obstacles…

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