I’m Autistic!

I can really relate to this post! Right down to the birth year and the intuitive feeling that I might have dodged a bullet by *not* having been diagnosed until later. A lot of my own sentiments are beautifully expressed here 😊❤️


(CN: descriptions of ableism, ableist language, abuse, addiction, grunge culture, and a lot of navel gazing)

Well, this post is a long time coming. Those few people (if any) who read this blog without following me on social media have probably noticed something strange in my last few posts: I started identifying as autistic all of the sudden. I’m not in one of those bipolar states where I start thinking I’m an ancient, reincarnated deity, a really great painter, or someone who could make a good living as a televangelist. I really am autistic.

This diagnosis was a long time in coming. I’m not sure if I would have been better or worse off if diagnosed earlier. All I know, is I’ve suffered a great deal because of my neurodiversity, in ways I’m only now beginning to realize. Before, I blamed myself for the raw treatment I received. Ableism is…

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An Aspies Guide To The Holidays

Some really useful tips in here!  Thank you for writing this 😊👍🏼

The Godless Iowan

A few weeks back I wrote a few tips from the atheist side of things and I thought that I might come back to this topic from another important aspect of my life, Autism. The holidays are both wonderful and horrifying to many of us on the spectrum. We love to give, to receive, to spend time with family but at the same time all of these things can cause us a lot of stress and anxiety. So without further ado, here are some tips for Aspies during the holidays.


1.) Know your exits

With the holidays come social gatherings and in any social gathering it is important to know your exits. If things get a bit to stressful, or you find yourself headed towards an overload head towards that exit. An exit isn’t meant to imply you are leaving but that you are heading off for a moment to…

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The Importance of Autism in the Human Population

Excellent info here! Great post 👏🏼😊

An Intense World

It is not uncommon to think that everyone is, essentially, the same. Certainly there don’t seem to be any significant genetic differences among different groups, particularly those genes involving the brain. But what if there are differences not among different racial/ethnic/cultural groups but, rather, within the human species as a whole?

About 84% of the genes are expressed in the brain. Given that humans have 20,000 genes, that means about 16,800 genes are expressed in the brain.

We should not be surprised, then, if we were to find more than a bit of variation among human brains.

We should expect to see variation in degrees of creativity vs. copying, on liberalism vs. conservatism, on selfish behavior vs. altruism, introversion vs. extroversion, leadership vs. following, variations in thinking styles, degrees of mental energy, I.Q. and flexibility of I.Q., and of course any of a variety of learning…

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Performing Pain: Autism

This post resonates with me so much 😍  Spells out what goes through my mind, although much more clearly and eloquently than I ever could!  Love this 😁❤️

Autism and Expectations

I am not good at communicating my pain. It’s my greatest weakness. I am terrible at asking for help, I am terrible at reaching out to you, and I am worst at this when I’m distracted by physical discomfort.

I have often been told what a “coper” I am. How well I cope with stressful situations, how well I cope with shock and pain. Not because I am coping, but because I communicate these things differently.

What is pain? How do you quantify it? How do you get across just how much or how little you are in?

I am autistic, which means that I have a social communication condition, which means that I do not naturally or intuitively understand or (perhaps more importantly) perform social communication.

Most of the time I can do it all. I have learnt your ways, I may not understand why THIS QUESTION needs THIS…

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Re: #ToSiriWithLove I actually blame the publisher

Wow!!  Fantastic post!  Rarely do I reblog from the same source in rapid succession, but grrrrrl, you’re on fire!  I love your balanced rationality and thorough explanation.  Stepping back, taking a deep breath, and looking at the facts (even when it’s tough to do so), and spelling them out so patiently in a piece that takes such an original point of view, providing such original information.  Bravo, amiga!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💜💜

I CAN Be Autistic

open book with fairy dust on a messy background A successful book is supposed to be so magical…

If you never go on Twitter (and I don’t blame you if you don’t), you may have not heard about all the brouhaha around the memoir “To Siri With Love”, written by the mother of an autistic boy. It’s triggered a whole lot of #ActuallyAutistic people with its passages, as well as the author’s (defiant) responses to her critics.

I’ve read portions of the book (I’m working my way through my library copy now), and all I can say is… ouch. I mean, some parts are not bad. Some are even good. But on the whole, it chafes. Like the rough fabric and seams in the clothing I had to wear (no other options) when I was a kid. Like the feel of sleeves rubbing on my wrists. For me, it’s like hearing fingernails on a chalkboard while I eat…

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Thank god my parents didn’t have the Internet, when I was growing up!

This whole dang post!! 👏🏼👏🏼.  Every last word.  I echo these sentiments exactly. 💚💙💜

I CAN Be Autistic

I’ve been thinking a lot about that Siri book, lately, and it occurred to me while I was driving to work today that if my parents had had access to the Internet when I was growing up, no way would I be able to have the kind of life I have now. My parents were both intensely critical of me, and they complained bitterly to their friends about my behavior, my choices, my demeanor, pretty much every aspect of me that didn’t fit into their idea of how I should be – or especially other people’s ideas about how I should be.

My parents spent an awful lot of time doing social damage control, and using me as a scapegoat, basically throwing me under the bus with their friends and colleagues, when I was making them look bad. So, reading a book by an author with an autistic son who…

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Concerning social anxiety and meltdowns…

This is one of the original posts on meltdowns I ever came across!  I helped me so much 👍🏼👍🏼😊💗

One Odd Duck

Recently, in an online group of adult aspies I belong to, meltdowns have been a topic of discussion. This is a very serious aspect of Asperger’s syndrome that can create tremendous social struggles. It is among the reasons some adult aspies fear to leave their homes. With the permission and encouragement of the other members of that group, I’m going to use some of the insights from that discussion, as well as my own experience, to help my readers understand meltdowns and how they relate to the social anxiety so many aspies experience.

I want to begin by defining what a meltdown is. According to Merriam-Webster, the definition that best fits what I am describing is “a breakdown of self-control (as from fatigue or overstimulation).” Notice that it does not reference autism or Asperger’s syndrome. I believe it is possible for anyone to experience a meltdown. As I told a…

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